We like to think we know our neighbors (or our family).
Truth is that we don’t know shit.
The next time you leave your block, look at all the houses on your street.
Then realize that if YOU live with a secret… there’s a 80% chance that every single one of your neighbors does, too.
People are generally cool, but there are some whacked people out there, and they gotta live SOMEWHERE.
Think about it.
That’s all I’m saying about that.
The quote below was written by Thorbbc4hotwife on Tumblr years ago. He was a very popular BBC bull from Vegas and shared his adventures with the world on Tumblr and Twitter. Though his Tumblr page is gone and he’s not been seen online since 2017, some of his images are still floating around the web on swinger, hotwife, and cuckold sites. The cool thing about him was that he was very real and intelligent. Beneath his quote are my comments from my Tumblr repost years ago, after which he wrote and thanked me for the good word. Not many people READ nsfw Tumblr, so it was lovely when people appreciated each others’ minds.
I repost this his words with respect. ♥
” I’ll probably lose some followers with this post but I figure most people are only here for pictures and hardly ever read what I write anyway, so here goes…
A little masturbation now and then can be healthy. However, chronic masturbation can wreak havoc on your body and your mind. These days, married men have 24/7 access to images and high definition videos of every type of sexual kink. If you’re into Asian grannies in pantyhose, it’s just a click away. Unfortunately, you are on bull/hotwife blog so if cuckolding is what you truly desire, different rules apply to you.
Let’s call a duck a duck, chronic masturbation is selfish and does absolutely nothing for your wife. As a matter of fact, spending hours on the Internet jerking to other women will likely make you think less of your wife, sexually. You start to see your wife as a mom, a partner, a housekeeper a roommate- any and everything but a sexual goddess.
Your ability to cum whenever and wherever you want takes power away from your wife and it can do permanent damage to her self esteem.
The worse she feels, the less sex she wants to have. It’s a vicious cycle that can spin out of control and put a ridiculous amount of stress on your relationship.
Or, you could take a 180 degree turn in the other direction and finally get that hotwife you’ve always dreamed about. Chances are, your wife isn’t ready for you to set up a date with a BBC. However, I’m sure she’s caught you jerking before.
What if you told her that you wanted to stop jerking for a week or so (maybe while she is out of town) and you wanted her help? Tell her you bought a cock cage that you saw on the Internet and you wanted her to have the key.
I’m just brainstorming here, but it seems like a way to gradually introduce your wife to cuckolding without freaking her out. I’d guess that most wives would jump at the chance to have some control over your ability to masturbate.
You know your wife better than me (for now), but I’m sure she already knows what you are doing late at night. If you were really just up late working as much as you say, you would have had 10 raises by now. Try having a conversation about being locked for a week or so and let me know how it goes.
Baby steps.
@thorbbc4hotwife ~ 2016 “
♦ Thor is not just a bull with a blog. He’s educated, mature, and respectful. He’s good at what he does, and blogs his ‘alt lifestyle’ with a sense of humility and groundedness, so that others might be able to get a glimpse of what he does from HIS perspective, and realize that most of what we see on screen is pretty much bullshit.
And like myself, I feel he wants to provide some insight to the reality of his lifestyle, and hopefully people will come away from his blog having learned a little something.
Being a Keyholder for much more than strictly kink purposes, I couldn’t help but repost this. I don’t ‘follow’ his blog, but I DO ‘check in’ every so often.
I’ve great respect for him and others like him.
TY for your mind, Thor.
♥ ~T 2016
There is a HUGE difference between playing the role of a Fem Domme (for fun, for her partner, for work, for an occasional release, etc)… and truly embracing one’s natural domineering tendencies as her style of life with her partner.
This message is relative to the small (but growing) number of women who, through a variety of circumstances, have come to realize, ACCEPT, pursue, and finally fulfill this lifestyle. It doesn’t happen without being truthful to oneself, a clear and unbiased reality check, and the patience to find a partner with whom to share it… which may literally take years.
The ‘fem-dom lifestyle’ is a yearning that lives deep within the nature of the Domina by default, by design, albeit she may not actually know this most of the time. She was born with an attitude (often suppressed) that didn’t conform to the expected or typically accepted gender role. I’m not talking about transgendered women.
In the NON-sexual realm, oftentimes the Domme’s nature (called “independent” or “controlling”) is a very valuable trait, by giving her motivation that stems from within herself… the ability to stand up to, and RECOVER FROM, obstacles that would crumble and destroy other women (other people in general)… and having enough willpower to do what she wants to do or be, even if seems success is a long shot.
They are the women that simply take the LEAD.. the compassionate yet authoritarian woman that people come to for help, the women that people automatically trust and feel safe with… because they KNOW these women will make SURE things are taken care of, correctly.
Dominant women get things done because they WANT TO, and NEVER because it’s required of them by someone or something else. THEY are their own driving force. If they do something well, it usually comes naturally, as they haven’t the patience to waste on doing something half-assed, or waiting to learn and have to practice something for a long period of time with no gratification, (either instant or along the way).
Because of this, they coincidentally choose to do many things that feel like second nature to them. HOWEVER, when a Dominant WANTS to learn something… then GET OUT OF HER WAY, because she will leave no stone unturned until she is well-versed, and feels satisfied with what she knows, which MUST meet her own high standards. Standards that are much higher than most others would expect.
She is often a perfectionist, and NEEDS to be allowed to do whatever she is doing, HER way, (the most proficient way)… and people LISTEN to and follow her because of this.
Dominants are NOT hurtful people, as they are women who fight harmful people, fight for justice, give a voice to those who haven’t one, aren’t afraid to make changes, and NEVER take ‘thank you’ or ‘I love you’ for granted.
They are NOT outright mean, demeaning, cruel or selfish… unless they are confronting those who ARE. Most Dominas are intuitive and empathetic, nurturing, and caring. She tends to feel MORE than she lets people know. And even though she exudes strength… she’s not ashamed to show her softness, femininity, and vulnerability with only those she TRUSTS.
Unfortunately, true Dommes trust next to no one, even though they are trusted by almost everyone. This lack of trust is an ongoing struggle for many women, and some find themselves at a crisis point SOMEtime when she hasn’t enough freedom to be who she really is. It easily fixed by letting them take the reigns and see what happens, but life is much more complicated than that.
Sometimes their inner power is misunderstood for decades… and she’s labeled ‘control freak’, ‘anal retentive’, ‘need to always be right’ (when they ARE usually always right!), and it leads to conflict with those who don’t understand. Even she may not understand.
Within the SEXUAL realm, Dominas feel as if they are FINALLY HOME. They may have played with kink all of their sexual life, thinking nothing strange about her urges or desires, which is wonderful and lucky …
OR…
she may have had a sheltered or typical vanilla life, but always struggled with ‘fucked-up’ thoughts or desires, believing she’s a freak, a bitch, confused, in need of help, etc.
But when she FINALLY discovers (however she does), the scene, the lifestyle, a kinky partner, etc, and finally sees that there are many others like herself… AND there are SO MANY men who desire a woman exactly as she is… it’s a validation of everything that brought her there.
Not only is it a validation of who she is and has been… but she now has a venue in which to really be, feel, grow, learn, lead, accept, give and everything in between. And an outlet to express herself without judgement.
And once she is sure that this is where she truly wants to be, and HOW she wants to live… she will LEARN as much as she can, and do whatever it takes to be the best… for herself.
Pain and pleasure cross a fine line, and she’ll learn where hers is… for herself.
Those who are keen and knowledgeable enough, WILL recognize the differences between a lifestyle Domina, and a Domme who takes on the role for a client or a camera or a fun (or terrifying) night. They may be subtle to people unless you live WITHIN a FLR… but they’re there.
~ So kudos to the TRULY submissive men who are strong enough and willful enough to seek out, find, and stay with their Domme, their Keeper, their Mistress, their Love. Know that she values you as much as you adore Her. She needs you, and you must be there for her… and it takes more strength and security, attention and love to be able to keep her happy, than any ‘normal’ person in a ‘normal’ relationship can imagine.
~ And more power to the Dominas who are secure enough to be who you are, despite the loneliness, misunderstanding, ignorance (and tons of bullshit from stupid men who watch too much porn).
Settling should never be an option.
♥ Love to you, my Sisters.
~T
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