The Best Way to Be Eaten

If you’re following this blog, then I’m assuming you’re already into the D/s or Female Led-lifestyle, which is centered around the needs and decisions of a dominant woman. If you’re visiting this page out of the blue, you probably arrived because of my catchy headline.
How you got here is irrelevant, you’re here to read my opinion on the best way to eat pussy for HER benefit, so let’s go.

As dominant as I am, and as most self-proclaimed dominant females are, we tend to take control of most things, especially sex. We like to control the situation for the most part, and one of the perks about this is being on the RECEIVING end of as much pleasure we can handle, whenever we want it. We enjoy having our pussy eaten as much as we like breathing, and we’re not shy about letting our person know.

In fact, pussy worship is often a stipulation in most D/s contracts and agreements, as the act requires very little physical accommodations, and if your mouth works, you’ve got no excuse. Oral sex is pretty doable just about anywhere since it usually ‘leaves no trace’ and doesn’t HAVE to take a lot of time, which is super convenient for those occasions when you don’t have a lot of time.

But when you DO have the time to do it right, to take things slow, to make it matter… you should.
There are various positions to get the job done here, and people will forever argue about which one is best… BUT when it comes to making the experience 100% about HER, where she doesn’t need to control anything… when she’s not required to think or do ANYTHING… there is only ONE position, and that is reclined, face up.

Laying supine gives women the opportunity to totally relax her entire body and just RECEIVE. When we’re this comfortable, the only thing we have to do is FEEL, and all our attention can focus on the delectable, warm softness of a talented mouth and tongue.
Only in this position can we allow ourselves to be moved, spread wide, grabbed, caressed, fingered, visually admired, kissed, etc. And since our hands are free, we can use them to stroke or grab his hair or touch his shoulders, to touch ourselves, whatever. Since we’re not using all kinds of muscle strength that would otherwise cause us to expend our energy, we can focus on what we feel and let him know by speaking to him. We can tell him what to do or that he’s such a good boy (they LOVE that)… and we can HEAR what he’s actually SAYING when he speaks (if he’s allowed to). 

Yes, we love to see women face-sitting, queening, grinding, and otherwise being in control, so mighty and powerful, by perching on a face. It’s a power exchange and hot as fuck to watch. This almighty display of control serves a purpose and can be fucking unbelievable, as we get to move however we wish. Utilizing his entire face, nose and chin, mustache or beard, however we want as we smear and flow our juices onto the mouth and whole face of a head under our ass. That position serves itself for a variety of reasons. Especially if the face under our ass is restrained and hasn’t a choice in the matter, and only to be used as the woman’s plaything, her source of pleasure and everything is entirely up to her and how she wants it.

This face-sitting position also happens to be more beneficial if the face under our ass isn’t good at eating pussy. Which is an abomination, since eating pussy CAN BE TAUGHT, SO THERE’S NO EXCUSE FOR LOUSY CUNNILINGUS!!
If the sub is disappointingly inept at going down, she can gyrate her hips enough to use the nose and basically any other protrusions (tongue, chin) and his saliva to get herself off, without much need for the mouth to be great.
*However, inadequacy is still a FUCKING shame and unacceptable in this age of information, where there are thousands of tutorials on ‘how to’ in every form of media.

As I was saying, being reclined… we’re on the receiving end and can grab hair, moving the giving face/head wherever we want, and we can gyrate our hips around and still remain in the near vicinity of where we began. That’s really all we need to do, and it’s fantastic.
But we can also watch. We can elevate our backs and head enough to view the interaction between the most intimate part of our bodies and that mouth. Usually with a shit-eating grin.

Being eaten while on our backs lessens the distractions of our knees getting fucked up, carpet burns, becoming exhausted from using our quads to remain in a position that ATTEMPTS to keeps our crotch centered where it should be, when gravity and gyrations makes us move all over. Not to mention keeping our balance the whole time, trying to not accidentally smother and kill the person we want to tongue-fuck us. That toppy position brings about the harsh realization that we’ve got to seriously work out the muscles we didn’t even know we had, and to a degree that makes us question why we chose that position to begin with. So yeah, thinking and doing ALL this, while trying to ENJOY it at the same time is not optimal.

Look, I’m a dominant chickita, and I love to mount my subjects when the mood and opportunity is what I want… but for the sake of simply being WORSHIPED, letting someone GIVE their time, energy and focus to lap, suck, tongue-fuck, finger, spread, grab, caress, kiss, and all that can possibly go down while going down… while they cramp their neck and tire their tongue for as long as she wants…. is the optimal way to go.
Lay back and let the bliss happen. Literally.

Unless it’s bad.
In which case, you slowly grab his hair in your fist, pull up his face, tell him what he’s doing wrong, (possibly give it a smack after telling him the second time), and make sure he LISTENS and HEARS what you expect from his mouth to make you come again and again.
It also helps to keep his cock bound/locked IF he’s not great at eating pussy. Because hes NEVER going to improve if he’s always ready to pounce and fuck you.

We have heard the whines of how tired his tongue gets or how cramped his neck might be. waaaaaa
So? He should never let that happen… BUT if he does, move him to the edge of a bed where he can get on his knees, wrap your legs over his shoulders and his head and neck can remain in the natural position(s).
Or put some pillows under your hips so he can lay on his stomach propped on his elbows and feast while his head is generally in the natural position.
Or lay head to toe next to him, put a pillow under your ass, and allow only his torso to cross you at the hips. His head will again, only need to bend down.
Or have him lay on his side head to toe, and drape one leg over his shoulder, so he can reach you that way.

There’s no excuse for a cramped neck. Yeah, ergonomics should be considered, but um… this is his job, so I don’t have a whole lot of empathy if he’s a whiner.
And as far as a tired tongue… well, that’s just because it’s not happening enough. If he’s new to the frequency or length of worship sessions, then he just needs to practice. Either up the frequency, or have him practice within his own mouth while driving or at the computer, wherever. The tongue is a muscle.
Again, there’s no excuse for shitty head, especially after it becomes a regular part of life.

This is my opinion, like every other one of my rants, but physics are fact. As sexy as all the other positions may seem, and as much she can use his mouth to make her moan in nearly any circumstance, think about the intent when you have the time.

Dominants don’t need to dominate to be in control.
♥

Queening – The History

Below is a lovely explanation of Queening, which is an elegant term for situational face sitting on a submissive. It was written many years ago by MsWicked on Fetlife.
Some submissives idealize this term as it connotates the utmost devotion to ones Domme. I don’t use the term often, as it seems to warrant a very specific circumstance (in my opinion), but it IS used by many people and I think everyone should know the term.
As always, I post this with gratitude. ♥

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By MsWicked

” Queening is, in the sado-masochistic pantheon of arts, the use of the male face, mouth, and nose and tongue, as a substitute for sexual intercourse and masturbation, by the dominant woman.

It places the man in the most slavish, subservient position, under the woman’s buttocks and crotch. She sits on his face, or has his head trapped between her thighs. The whole event is devoted to her pleasure, her orgasms, and her time schedule. The man’s pleasure or pain, satisfaction or frustration, desires or fears are of little importance, if any. The woman’s clitoris, vulva, labia and vagina demand service.

This thrilling, delicious sexual practice has an ancient and traditional history.
Ladies of medieval households often had pages provide them with mouth, lip and tongue service under their skirts while their husband were absent, thus remaining, technically faithful.
Many a young boy had his first lessons in. sex with his head under Madame’s backside, with her quim vigorously riding his face. Many young girls still virgins, enjoyed orgasms on a male servant’s mouths as the earliest sexual experiences. In ancient Chinese courts one long tongued, trained male slave was used by female royalty and court ladies as casually as if they were going to the lavatory. The slave would be summoned, face-fucked then dismissed casually and serenely. In old Japan, brothels would provide male victims for such use by visiting, paying women and girls.

This thrilling, delicious sexual practice has an ancient and traditional history.
Ladies of medieval households often had pages provide them with mouth, lip and tongue service under their skirts while their husband were absent, thus remaining, technically faithful.
Many a young boy had his first lessons in. sex with his head under Madame’s backside, with her quim vigorously riding his face. Many young girls still virgins, enjoyed orgasms on a male servant’s mouths as the earliest sexual experiences. In ancient Chinese courts one long tongued, trained male slave was used by female royalty and court ladies as casually as if they were going to the lavatory. The slave would be summoned, face-fucked then dismissed casually and serenely. In old Japan, brothels would provide male victims for such use by visiting, paying women and girls.

Mouth and tongue sexual service to the female genitals is ‘cunnilingus’ or ‘cunnilinctus’ literally cunt licking/ sucking. Queening properly places the woman on top of the male face, using it ruthlessly and selfishly. The lady commands, the man obeys. Having the male slave erect, frustrated and unsatisfied adds to the sadistic pleasures enjoyed by the woman. In ancient Persia, cleverly constructed chairs were known as man face stools with the male face replacing the seat centre. Ladies could lift their skirts, sit down, cover the scenario with those skirts, and with gentle rhythmic, firm hip and buttock movements enjoy private little orgasms even when others were present. Old Indian pornographic graffiti depicts scenes like that, with gowned girls, obviously in ecstasy, riding a male face while gazing at an enormous male erection.

In more recent, Western times governesses and nannies have been recorded as teaching their young male charges just how to please their crotches with their tongues. Many a frightened, cowed Georgian or Victorian boy knew intimately the underside of Madame’s skirts and felt the vice-like grip of her gartered thighs round his head. Masquerading as a punishment and usually followed or preceded by a whipping, the queening would take place in conditions of discipline and severity. The curt command, the superior, unsmiling demand would be followed by a rustling lifting of black, voluminous skirts, the stripping off of Madame’s panties and the heavy, fleshy hot damp descent of her buttocks and crotch onto the boy’s face. Heaven help him if Madame did not orgasm satisfactorily. A savage whipping would follow.

Even down in the servant’s quarters, the youngest male servant would find his head trapped under housemaids’ skirts. Cruelty seems to have been part and parcel of queening procedures in olden times.

‘Queening’ by definition, requires a dominant, demanding woman and a subservient, obedient man. The woman must be concerned only with her personal pleasure and satisfaction. His mouth, lips, tongue and nose are merely live tools there to pleasure her labia, clitoris, vulva and vaginal passage. He must be trained, if necessary by painful punishment, in the proper use of his facial features. She must gain the maximum delight and orgasmic satisfaction without concerning herself with her victim’s possible distress, humiliation and discomfort. He is nothing more than a sexual toy or playing, as of no more importance than her lavatory pan, her sanitary towels, her dildo, her handkerchief, her lavatory paper, her condoms or contraception pills, or her vaginal douche – all quite necessary to her private sexual and private well being, but all useable and disposable.

The choice of type of slave is up to her. She may wish to have a wimpish male twit under her backside and quim. She may find more delight in subduing a macho strong male. She may have a cuckolded husband to humiliate, taunt and sit on. She may have developed her talents as a schoolgirl, together with her girlfriends, taking the school wimp into the girls’ lavatory and taking turns in squatting on his face. She may have gained experience by dominating a younger brother, riding his face selfishly while their parents were asleep or away from home.

Some women like to have a mouth-dildo attached to their slave’s head, sticking up from his open mouth as a rideable accessory. This provides pleasant, full, vaginal passage orgasms, but prevents sucking and licking by the male victim.
Other women blindfold their prone slaves, thus deleting any possible visual pleasure they might obtain. A few cruel ladies inevitably urinate on to his face after having orgasmed. Others enjoy demanding mouth service right after enjoying satisfactory adultery with a lover, thus making the victim more humiliated. Most talented queening ladies humiliate, taunt, torment, degrade and tease their victims before and after this enforced cunnilingus.

It is essential that the male slave is more than intimate with those parts of a woman’s body which require servicing by his tongue, lips and nose. Kneeling astride his face, with his eyes very close to her cunt, is a pleasant torment. He is able to see and fear each part of her sexual equipment, staring right up into her vaginal passage and memorising her clitoris, labia and vulva. Using her fingers to stretch her labia she is able to insist that he looks and learns. He must also examine her anus ;with respect, in case she decides to have his nose inserted into it.

She must teach him the way to kiss, lick and suck her sexually, with particular attention to her clitoris. He must suck and swallow her sex juices. To add a special thrill to her pleasure, she must make him afraid of her. He must be in awe of her. He must adore her. He must give her respect, and recognise her superiority. He must worship her genitals. They are his goddess, his fate, his destiny. His life is less important than a single orgasm enjoyed by her.

Riding the male face requires careful, skilful experience, as much as is required in learning to ride a horse. The hip and buttocks movements are the key to success. The careful placing of the cunt on the mouth or nose is, of course, essential, and might require some wriggling adjustment until the male’s service parts are properly positioned. It may be that the lady wishes to have his nose against her anal rose while his mouth serves her quim. She will, of course, be as rough and savage as she wishes at the moment she comes. At that moment she must not care in the least if he suffocates, or chokes.
After satisfaction she can relax, still sitting on his face and enjoy a cigarette or a glass of wine. When she dismounts she will casually ignore the fool, dismissing him abruptly, sending him off to continue his housework, followed by taunts and insults. Perhaps she will lend him to the girlfriends!

The complete, perfect, mature woman always has two men in her life, one to fuck her normally the other to be queened by her, as her slave. “